A woman wrote to me recently with a question about how to let go of her husband’s books, clothes and other possessions, following his death 22 months previously. ‘The right thought process is needed,’ she said.
What happens during grieving
The advice I always give in this situation is that it’s not something to rush into. There needs to be a grieving period, and the length of time it takes is different for different people. But the fact that she has written to ask this question would seem to indicate that she is ready to start letting go of his things even if she’s uncertain about the approach to take.
The important thing to understand is that it’s not just a person’s physical body that disintegrates after death. Their etheric and astral bodies also dissolve and disintegrate over a period of weeks or months, eventually leaving just the person’s Higher Self, which is the part that survives from life to life.
Actually it’s not quite this simple because there are deeply imprinted parts of the astral body called samskaras that can also survive death, but that’s another story. If you are interested to learn more about this, the best book I’ve ever read on the topic is Death: The Great Journey by Samuel Sagan, which is published in the form of a Knowledge Track.
So to answer this woman’s question about letting go of her husband’s belongings, it’s really only her own feelings she needs to consider because her husband will by now be in a very different space of being where material possessions have no significance at all.
To ease her through the process, another piece of advice I would give is to call in a professional to do a space clearing of her home. She doesn’t mention in her email the circumstances of her husband’s death, but if he was sick then a space clearing will clear out the imprints of that in the walls and furniture, renewing the energies of her home so that she can begin her life afresh. It will also clear out residues of grief, trauma and all the other mixed emotions that will have accumulated in the 22 months since his death. This is a normal part of grieving so they are not “bad” energies. There just comes a time when it’s time to move on. Space clearing clears out the stuck energies while leaving the higher frequencies of happy memories intact.
This is a situation where it really is best to enlist the help of a professional rather than attempting to do a space clearing oneself. A certain objectivity and degree of vision is needed. The space clearers I have trained have this skill and know how to energetically hold a client throughout the ceremony so that they can feel their feelings and find their own pathway to move on.
Copyright © Karen Kingston, 2010