New Year is not the only time when it’s good to do Space Clearing or clutter clearing to make a fresh start. Another important time is when you start a new relationship.

I’m talking here about a relationship that has some mileage, that you want to give the best possible chance of success. Suppose you have been going out together for a while and you decide you want to start living together. I always recommend moving to a new home that neither person has ever lived in before. This is so that each partner has the same degree of ownership of the space. But practically speaking, this is not always possible, and this is where Space Clearing and clutter clearing can really help.

A common request received by Space Clearing practitioners is to clear out the energy of a partner’s ‘ex’, meaning an ex-wife, ex-husband or ex-lover who lived in the place before they moved in. Energy sensing the walls and furniture, it is usually very easy to tell which rooms the ‘ex’ spent the most time in, which chairs they sat in, which objects they used the most, and so on. Mattresses are generally the most heavily imprinted. To the new person moving it, it can feel like there is no room for them until the energy of the previous partner has been cleared out.

Physically cleaning and clutter clearing the place from top to bottom can certainly help, and a fresh coat of paint will do wonders. But to remove the imprints, short of demolishing the place and rebuilding, the only technique I know that really does the job thoroughly is Space Clearing, using the specific ceremony I describe in detail in ‘Creating Sacred Space with Feng Shui’.

Every step of the ceremony plays its part but for this type of situation, the most important circuits are the clapping and belling ones. Clapping breaks up the lumps of energy that accumulate in all the corners and belling penetrates deep into the walls, furniture and other objects in the place, shattering imprints. Of course the preparatory steps to the ceremony have to be performed first for this to work properly, and I’m not talking about just any kind of clapping and belling. The techniques are very specific – a sharp, crisp circuit of clapping, beginning and ending at the front door, followed by a circuit using a high quality Balinese bell (they are the only bells I know of that shatter imprints so effectively when directed with intention).

Ideally the Space Clearing is best done by the new partner moving in, not the one who has lived there for a while, because their energy is already anchored in the place. Or better still, hire a professional space clearer who will be impartial, and can set the space equally for both partners. I’m not claiming that this will magically make it the ideal place to live in forever (nothing beats a completely new place), but it will certainly balance the situation out much more. Space Clearing can remove the energetic imprints; it can’t change the visual and territorial associations of the partner who lives there first.

Coming soon... an article about how to get the imprints out of a mattress that has been slept on by other people (including a partner’s ex-lover!).

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