Karen,

I need help. I've reread your book three times. I've done some decluttering, but it seems it just keeps coming back. I used to attend Clutterer's Anonymous with is a 12-step program like AA. As soon as I have cleaned my kitchen, it is totally messed up the very next day. My last relationship ended 18 months ago and we fought daily about my clutter and when I cleaned house, it was "not good enough" for him.

I only work part-time at the moment and thought about hiring someone but my funds are limited. Depression gets in my way of accomplishing more - it seems as if it is just a vicious cycle of depression, clutter. My friends have just dropped off, one by one with no explanation. They just don't call me back any more.

What would you recommend for such a hard case as me. I've held onto things most of my life. I would accept anything little tidbit you may have. With much love and appreciation,

- M.B., USA

Karen's reply:

If you've read my book three times and still have not been able to sustain clutter clearing then you need to do deeper personal work to get to the cause of your messiness, which I would say is also the cause of your depression. There is no magic wand I can wave to make everything magically all right but I can assure you that life doesn't have to be this way.

The most important thing for you to discover is the emotional imprints that are causing your behaviour, and the best way I know of doing this is through ISIS or rebirthing. There is more information about this in the question above entitled 'Emotions Surfacing When Clearing Clutter'.

Clearing emotional imprints allows you to connect more and more to your Higher Self, which is the real 'you'. Depression is always a sign of disconnection from Higher Self. You can also read my book, Creating Sacred Space with Fen Shui, and learn how to space clear your home, which will raise the level of energy in your home and also remove the stagnant energy that collects around clutter, making it much easier to clear.